Can You Really Be Too Nice?
Is there such a thing like being too nice? Isn’t it important to be nice to the people around you? My parents used to tell me, be nice and respectful to others, so they do the same to you. Is that all true?
Many people tell me I am a “nice kid”. There might very well be truth behind that. When people are asking me to do something for them, I often do so. I do not talk back very often and consequently, I do not argue with other people that much. When it comes to anger, I never really burst out and show my emotions. I keep it to myself, what can be really bothersome over time.
What Is In For You?
All people see from me is a hard working, helpful, quiet, happy, nice man. At least that is what people describe me as. Is it fulfilling to live this way? What personal goals are you going to reach if you do things for other people, keep agreeing with them, and do not try to change the current status quo?
You see where this is going right? If you are telling me you do not want to complain and not behaving positive is toxic, I totally understand where you are coming from. For my whole life, I worked it silence without raising my voice. However, I am starting to learn that there is a difference between complaining and standing up for your pride and your principles.
Why You Should Be More Egoistic.
Think about it! The greatest achievers in the world challenged the status quo. Christopher Columbus challenged the belief that the world is a plate. He was egoistic about his thought and did not care what the whole world said. At the end, he discovered a new continent.
Michael Jordan challenged the belief that he could not play basketball in high school. He only wanted to what he loves. Now he is considered the best basketball player of all time.
Just to name two great achievers.
They also knew, that there was no progress without conflict. If you believe you have a better way than the current one, you have to have confidence and raise your voice to help yourself and the people around you. Whether you are right or wrong does not matter. It is all about the will to change something for the better.
Lastly, I want to say that helping someone else is a noble gesture. There is nothing wrong with it but think about what your priorities are. Whose life are you living? What I am trying to say is, if you keep helping someone else, you might start living someone else’s life, someones else’s dream. Of course I help the person that struggles to carry heavy stuff, or if someone dropped something I help the person pick it up. That is a no-brainer for me. But I do not want anybody else to use me for his or her goals.
Thank You For Reading
This post goes out to everyone who can identify himself or herself with this post. Moreover, this is a note to myself. I am the one who is not raising his voice enough. I want to go far as an athlete and as a human being. Keeping it the way it is and constantly helping others, putting myself last, does not help me get where I want to be.
That is why:
- I want to stand up for what I am saying
- I want to put myself first
- I want to live my own life
- I want to argue if someone threatens my pride
- I want to be courageous
At The End
At the end, I am trying to be nice and helpful, especially to the people that I value more than anything. I will still stand up for what I am saying though. At the end, it is my life that I am living.
When it comes to people that disagree with for what I am standing for, I will learn to stand even taller. This way I can protect my pride and go my own way first. If I can help you on the way, I will do so. Remember though, without no conflict, you never have progress.
This way, I hope I can find people that I can reach every goal with.
Thank you for reading.